Sunday, May 10, 2015

Collateral Damage

The Sex Offender. The boogeyman du jour, so evil that untold law enforcement man hours are spent tracking their every movement, so uncontrollable that they're not allowed within hundreds (sometimes thousands) of feet of anywhere children are, so different from the rest of society that their every detail must be listed on a website for all to see.

Sometimes, the desire to identify and mark as different means that it's not enough to list them on a public website. No, in the name of safety, we must identify them in other ways, such as special license plates for their vehicles, or special markings on their drivers licenses. So, what happens when the wrong box gets checked off by a bored and inattentive clerk, resulting in being identified as a sex offender when you are not?


"It reminds me of 'The Scarlet Letter,'" said Phillips, referring to the 19th century literature classic about a woman ostracized for having a child out of wedlock in Puritan Massachusetts. "This is the worst thing you can call a person."
The Scarlet Letter. Marking a mistake for all the world to see. It's wrong, and it needs to stop.

Saturday, May 9, 2015

Sex On The Beach

The next time someone tells you that everyone on the Sex Offender Registry is a creepy pedophile that wants to molest your child, remind them of this:


Yeah. You read that right.

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

The New Puberty?

Article link: http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/12/02/367811777/how-girls-are-developing-earlier-in-an-age-of-new-puberty?utm_medium=RSS&utm_campaign=freshair

A good portion of the Sex Offender Registry are young men who had to misfortune to be 18 with a 16 year old girlfriend. Some are even younger, with correspondingly younger girlfriends. Curiously, only the males in these "Romeo and Juliet" relationships are punished.

"It has been established that girls who enter puberty earlier are more likely to have symptoms of anxiety, higher levels of depression, initiate sex earlier and sexual behaviors earlier," Julianna Deardorff tells Fresh Air's Terry Gross.

Think about that for a moment. Young men, full of raging hormones, are being approached by young women, also full of raging hormones, who then initiating the sexual contact. And, as it turns out, it's happening earlier and earlier, when the emotional and intellectual development of these girls are not fully mature. And yet, the boy is at fault, locked away and subject to registration and restrictions.

Victim blaming? No. There are two victims here: the young woman who isn't equipped to deal with the changes and hormonal urges her body is experiencing, and the young man who is all too willing to help satisfy those urges with urges of his own.

These types of "crimes" need to be seen for what they are, and dealt with fairly. Ether both are convicted and put on the registry, or (more preferably), both are educated on the consequences of their actions and taught to deal with the changes their bodies are going through.

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Vigil

There are those who say that sex offenders deserve the "punishment" of the registry, because they get off free after serving their time, while their victims are "scarred for life". Those people have no idea what they are talking about.

Tonight, I sit in vigil. On this night, so many years ago, something happened that forever altered the course of two lives.

I will not sleep tonight. I can't. I haven't slept on this night for over twenty-five years. I can't sleep, because when I do, I see it happening again. And I am powerless to stop it. In the days and weeks leading up to this night, the nightmares build. I am tortured by them, haunted by actions I cannot prevent. On this night, they reach their peak, and I am at my breaking point.

"They", those who advocate for the registry, say that it is a just "punishment" and compensation for the suffering of the victim.

I say to you that no punishment, no time in prison, no threats can equal the torture I put myself through each and every year.


Saturday, November 1, 2014

Halloween Tally

Source: http://www.buzzfeed.com/jimdalrympleii/three-trick-or-treaters-were-killed-friday-by-a-hit-and-run


5 children killed
5 children injured 
(Plus 2 adults) 

Thankfully, the police were otherwise occupied by making sure that sex offenders didn't have their lights on or passing out candy, because there were ZERO sexual assaults of children reported for Halloween (just like there is pretty much every Halloween). If the police hadn't been performing that oh so important task, they might have been available to patrol the streets and maybe prevent these tragedies.

The truth is, your child is more likely to be hit by a car than to be sexually assaulted on Halloween. And, if they are sexually assaulted, it's more likely to to happen at the hands of a family member, trusted adult, or a close friend than by the registrant down the street.

Halloween is a night of frights and fears, but the real threat to children isn't the imagined monster on the registry. The real monsters roam the streets in metal boxes, drunk, careless, or inattentive. They lurk inside your house, called "uncle", "dad", or "cousin". And you won't find their names, pictures, or addresses listed on the internet.

Fears based in facts are healthy. Unfounded fears kill. 

Saturday, September 20, 2014

Hater


You can't bring me down, already had my life turned upside down
I ride a downward spiral round and round
But I keep flying, I keep fighting
You won't ever bring me down

I'm good, I'm fine, this life's divine
No hate, no shame, no one to blame
You might despise your life with lies
I won't chastise, even if you think you can

Bring me down, already had my life turned upside down
I ride a downward spiral round and round
But I keep flying, I keep fighting
You won't ever bring me

Down (down, down, down, down), you won't ever bring me
Down (down, down, down, down), you won't ever bring me

I can't escape from the disdain; your heart, your pain
Your drama is lame, why can't you find
Some peace inside? I won't chastise
Even when you think you can

Bring me down, already had my life turned upside down
I ride a downward spiral round and round
But I keep flying, I keep fighting
You won't ever bring me

Down (down, down, down, down), you won't ever bring me
Down (down, down, down, down), you won't ever bring me

Hater (hater, hater), Hater (hater, hater)

I'm good, I'm fine, this life's divine
No hate, no shame, no one to blame
Why can't you find aome peace inside?

Hater (hater, hater, hater, hater)

You can't bring me down, already had my life turned upside down
I ride a downward spiral round and round
But I keep flying, I keep fighting
You won't ever bring me down

Hater (hater, hater, hater), you won't ever bring me down
Hater (hater, hater, hater), you won't ever bring me down
Hater (hater, hater, hater), 'cause I keep flying, I keep fighting
You won't ever bring me

Down (down, down, down, down), you won't ever bring me
Down (down, down, down, down), you won't ever bring me
Down (down, down, down, down), you won't ever bring me
Down (down, down, down, down), you won't ever bring me down

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Working the Beat

Is that a nightstick in your pocket, or...

Nah, the joke is too easy. The reality is disturbing: a police officer in New Jersey was caught masturbating at a Starbucks restaurant. To protect and (self) serve, indeed.

Once again, in case you're keeping score: not on any registry. Meanwhile, let's harass people for not living where they're supposed to, and let's haul out tape measures to find out that someone was living 18 feet closer to a school than they allowed.

Someone please explain to me how being 18 feet closer than 1000 feet puts children at risk. You can't, because it doesn't make sense. Meanwhile, you've got cops distributing child porn and masturbating at restaurants. Tell me, where does the real risk lie?

Wake up.

"Every society gets the kind of criminal it deserves.
What is equally true is that every community gets the kind of law enforcement it insists on."
— Robert Kennedy